A lady who was raised in a polygamous cult has opened up about how she married her second cousin when she was 16 years previous and left him almost two years later after his dad suggested him to take a second spouse.
Kollene Snow, 27, from Salt Lake Metropolis, Utah, candidly spoke about making an attempt to run away from dwelling at 15 and being manipulated into pondering that marriage was the one path to freedom in a video shared on her cousin Amanda Rae Grant’s YouTube channel.
The cousins have been born into the Davis County Cooperative Society, a polygamist sect often known as the Kingston Group or The Order. They each escaped the cult proper earlier than their 18th birthdays.
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Expertise: Kollene Snow, 27, from Salt Lake Metropolis, Utah, (proper) and her cousin Amanda Rae Grant (left) have opened up about their expertise in a cult in a lease YouTube video
Simply improper: Kollene (pictured on her marriage ceremony day) was simply 16 when she married her 21-year-old second cousin
Kollene’s father, John Daniel Kingston has 14 wives, and he or she is the fifth of her mom Shirley Hansen’s 12 kids.
She defined that they weren’t speculated to know who their dad was, solely her mother’s identify is listed on her beginning certificates, nevertheless it was her older full sister, Escaping Polygamy star Shanell DeRieux, who figured it out.
‘We knew we weren’t supposed to inform anyone who our dad was,’ she stated. ‘We additionally knew to not name him dad. We referred to as him by his center identify, which is Daniel.’
Kollene admitted she would not know what number of half-siblings she has, saying she realized that she and her childhood finest pal shared a father at a sleepover.
‘I used to be like, “No, that is my dad. You’ll be able to’t have the identical dad as me,”‘ she stated, prompting her pal and half-sister to clarify polygamy to her.
Cult: The cousins have been born into the Davis County Cooperative Society, a polygamist sect often known as the Kingston Group or The Order
Kollene’s father, whom she calls Daniel, already had a number of wives when he began courting her mother, however that did not forestall them from beginning their very own relationship.
‘Whereas he was courting her, he requested her if she needed to go to his marriage ceremony,’ she shared. ‘I do not know if my mother went to the marriage. I believe she did.’
Shirley was the ‘center spouse’ and the entire different wives picked on her, Kollene defined: ‘It is a bloodline factor. They deal with you want crap or like royalty relying on what household you have been born into.’
Daniel’s brother Paul Elden Kingston is the chief of The Order, and Amanda famous that the ‘much less Kingston you may have in your bloodline,’ the more severe you are handled.
Kollene was allowed to go to public college when she was in kindergarten, and being within the ‘actual world’ made her understand at a younger age that her life in The Order was not regular and that she needed to depart the sect.
Household picture: Kollene’s father, John Daniel Kingston has 14 wives, and he or she is the fifth of her mom Shirley Hansen’s 12 kids
Onerous to deal with: ‘We knew we weren’t supposed to inform anyone who our dad was,’ Kollene stated. ‘We additionally knew to not name him dad. We referred to as him by his center identify, which is Daniel’
Fateful day: Kollene (pictured with he marriage ceremony invitation) met her now ex-husband on a potato farm in Idaho when she was 15. She was despatched there after a failed try and run away
‘After I was 13, they have been telling us at Sunday Faculty that that is an important factor in your life,’ she recalled. ‘That is once they say begin fasting and praying for while you’re speculated to marry as a result of that is an important choice of your life.’
Amanda defined that they actually encourage you to get married and have infants as a result of that’s how they entice you.
Kollene ran away from dwelling at 15 however was ultimately returned to her mom. She was positioned in a ‘repentance dwelling’ in Idaho, the place she labored on a potato farm.
She stated The Order’s chief Paul despised her and solely met along with her one time when she acquired engaged. She claimed he as soon as made her pal rescind her invitation to a party and threatened to cancel it if she did not.
Her dad and mom informed her that she was a ‘dangerous egg,’ and unbeknownst to her on the time, certainly one of her sisters had approached her future husband and advised he marry her to ‘save her’ as a result of she needed to depart The Order.
Kollene and her now ex-husband struck up a relationship whereas engaged on the potato farm collectively.
Coerced: Kollene (pictured along with her then-fiancé) needed to go to public college, however members lied to her and stated it might value $2,000. She thought marriage was the one strategy to break away
Controlling: They acquired married in March 2009, however her husband would not let her acquired to highschool as a result of he feared somebody would ‘hit on’ her
Over: Kollene and her husband filed for divorce two years later after his father suggested him to take a second spouse as a result of she wasn’t having kids
‘That they had me working beneath someone who ended up being my husband. So I suppose I married my boss,’ she stated.
Amanda pressured that the principles for courting in The Order are strict: You must save your first kiss on your marriage ceremony day, and you’ll’t maintain fingers till you are engaged.
She was shocked when Kollene admitted that she would sneak off for dates her along with her future husband and even French kissed him earlier than they have been engaged.
‘I had a boy kiss me on the cheek and I felt responsible for 3 days straight,’ Amanda stated. ‘You are feeling like you are going to hell.’
Kollene did not wish to get married; she needed to go to highschool along with her friends, however she was lied to and informed that public college would value her $2,000 — cash her household did not have.
Amanda defined that The Order coerces younger members into marriage by taking away their choices. Kollene grew to become decided to get married as a result of she felt it was the one strategy to escape her present scenario.
Selections: Kollene tried to get her then-husband to depart The Order along with her, however he would not. After their break up, she went to magnificence college and have become an esthetician
Transferring on: Kollene continues to be shut along with her cousin Amanda (far proper) and her full sister Shanell DeRieux (far left), who’ve each left The Order
Pleased: Kollene (pictured with Shanell) celebrated her 10-year anniversary of leaving The Order in December
Not like most of her friends, members of the cult tried to forestall her from getting married as a teen as a result of they feared they’d lose management of her.
‘Earlier than we acquired married, I informed [my fiancé] we’re not residing polygamy and I’m planning on leaving The Order,’ she stated. ‘He knew all the pieces earlier than he jumped in.’
Kollene recalled getting right into a battle with him about it as a result of he frightened that God would ‘inform’ him to seek out one other spouse.
They ended up transferring ahead with the marriage, however Paul did all the pieces he may to make her marriage ceremony day depressing. She stated he even went so far as altering the situation of the ceremony the day earlier than her marriage ceremony.
Kollene was 16 when she stated ‘I do’ to her 21-year-old groom on March 21, 2009. She hadn’t even graduated highschool but. When she tried to return to highschool, her new husband forbade it.
‘He informed me he did not need me to work within the public or go to highschool as a result of he did not need anybody to hit on me,’ she stated. ‘He is the chain of the command. You ask your husband, after which he asks his dad, after which his dad asks the chief.’
Kollene tried to get her husband to depart The Order along with her, however he would not.
Married: Shanell (pictured along with her then-husband) was compelled to marry her first cousin when she was 18 years previous
Parental consent: Her father Daniel (entrance and middle) signed as a witness to her marriage ceremony
Serving to others: Shanell and her half-sisters Andrea Brewer and Jessica Christensen are the celebrities of the Lifetime actuality sequence Escaping Polygamy
Their relationship reached the tipping level when her husband’s father suggested him to take a second spouse, saying: ‘Kollene’s not having infants, so you need to marry another person that can.’
They filed for divorce about two years after they acquired married, and so far as Kollene is aware of, her ex continues to be in The Order. After their break up, she went to magnificence college and have become an esthetician.
Kollene celebrated her 10-year anniversary of leaving The Order in December. She now speaks brazenly about polygamy and has appeared on her sister Shanell’s Lifetime present Escaping Polygamy.
The docu-series follows Shanell and her half-sisters Andrea Brewer and Jessica Christensen as they assist folks go away their very own polygamist teams and regulate to their new lives away from their households.
Only a 12 months earlier than Kollene acquired married, Shanell’s dad and mom compelled her to marry her first cousin — Amanda’s half brother — in Colorado, the place it was authorized. She was simply 18 on the time, and her father was the one who signed as a witness to the weddings.
Shanell stated her marriage ceremony day marked the start of abuse and her marriage certificates made it much more troublesome for her to depart.
‘I didn’t select to get married, I used to be pushed…I personally don’t suppose first cousins must be married,’ she informed FOX31 in 2019.