A disabled man who suffered a extreme traumatic mind harm and his spouse have opened up about elevating their daughter collectively and whether or not they can have extra kids after his life-changing accident.
Luis Gustavo, 32, and his spouse Lexie, 29, from Tijuana, Mexico, have been solely married for 2 months when he was in a motorbike crash on April 2, 2013. He hit the frontal lobe and proper aspect of his mind, leaving him with extreme traumatic mind harm. Eight years later, Luis continues to be studying to stroll and speak.
The couple has an eight-year-old daughter, Clover, who was born earlier than the accident, and in a current video shared on their YouTube channel, The Accessible Van Life, they answered questions on their life.
Love: Luis Gustavo, 32, and his spouse Lexie, 29, from Tijuana, Mexico, have opened up about their interabled marriage in a video shared on their YouTube channel earlier this month
Candid: The couple has an eight-year-old daughter, Clover, who was born earlier than Luis’s accident, and so they answered questions on their household within the clip
It was the primary video they’d shared in practically a 12 months, and Lexie defined that their household had moved to a different house.
‘We ended up transferring, which was only a huge, huge change for us,’ she mentioned. ‘We discovered a one-story home, which could be very tough to seek out the place we stay. I assume it’s fairly accessible.’
‘The one factor with this home is the doorways to the rooms are very slender, so Luis’s wheelchair cannot actually go into all the rooms,’ she added.
‘I needed to take the door off of the room the place we sleep as a result of his wheelchair could not undergo it. However apart from that, it is a terrific place.’
Earlier than they began answering their followers’ questions, which have been written on items of paper and positioned in a jar, Lexie pointed to the blue medical masks round Luis’s neck.
She defined that it is overlaying the tracheostomy tube that helps her husband breathe by means of a gap in his windpipe.
Trauma: Luis suffered a extreme traumatic mind harm eight years in the past and continues to be studying the way to stroll and converse
Teamwork: Whereas Luis can talk with gestures and phrases, Lexie was there to elaborate on what he was saying in the course of the candid Q&A session
‘The physician was going to take Luis’s trach off again in October,’ she mentioned. ‘However, due to COVID, he determined to maintain it slightly bit extra.’
Lexie mentioned they began in search of gadgets just a few years in the past that might assist Luis converse, however they’re costly and he does not have insurance coverage.
He would want to attempt the gadget to verify it really works earlier than they purchase it, and so they have not been in a position to journey to San Diego, California, to do this due to the pandemic.
Whereas Luis can talk with gestures and phrases, Lexie was there to elaborate on what he was saying in the course of the candid Q&A session.
The primary query they answered was about whether or not they can have kids following Luis’s accident, and if that’s the case, do they plan on having one other youngster.
Luis gestured, sure, they’ll have extra kids, however, no, they do not plan on it, prompting Lexie to joke, ‘Properly, you are talking for your self, mister.’
Life-changing second: Luis and Lexie, pictured on their wedding ceremony day, have been solely married for 2 months when he was in a motorbike crash on April 2, 2013
Accident: Luis, pictured with their daughter earlier than the accident, hit the frontal lobe and proper aspect of his mind, leaving him with extreme traumatic mind harm
‘We are able to have kids,’ she mentioned, although she did not elaborate additional. ‘We are able to have as many kids as we would like.’
When she requested Luis why he does not need extra kids, he replied: ‘No cash.’ Nevertheless, he then added that they want yet one more.
‘I assume we wish to have one other youngster,’ Lexie added.
The couple went onto say that they hardly ever argue, which they assume is helpful for his or her daughter.
‘We do not actually struggle, so Clover does not see that with us,’ Lexie mentioned. ‘We have talked about how that may influence her sooner or later when she’s in a relationship. She does not see us struggle. She has by no means watched like an terrible argument.’
One of many questions was about how Luis participates of their daughter Clover’s upbringing.
Seeking to the long run: The couple defined that they’re able to have extra kids, regardless of Luis’s accidents, and so they wish to have yet one more youngster
Wanting again: Earlier than the COVID-19 pandemic, Luis went to bodily remedy, however he hasn’t been in a position to go this 12 months
‘With cash,’ Luis joked, whereas Lexie famous that if she tells Clover no, she’s going to go to her dad.
‘She does not actually ask for something, but when there’s something on her thoughts, she’ll go and ask her Papa,’ she defined.
‘I am her favourite,’ Luis mentioned, including that he listens to their daughter and offers her his ‘unconditional love.’
Lexie went on to recall how somebody as soon as requested Clover the way it feels to have a disabled father.
‘I feel individuals ask that [because] it isn’t simply the wheelchair. It is Luis’s means of expressing himself. They do not actually perceive it,’ she mentioned. ‘It is regular for us. It is simply, , that is our life. However different individuals have a tough time comprehending that.
‘[Clover will] say, “No, that is my father, and I simply do not see a distinction.” So I feel that was very mature of her.’
Comfortable: The couple mentioned they hardly ever argue, which they assume is helpful for his or her daughter
Love: Lexie recalled how somebody requested Clover the way it felt to have a disabled father, and she or he replied: ‘That is my father, and I simply do not see a distinction’
On the finish of the video, Luis mentioned one of the best factor about being married is being with Lexie, whom he is been with for a complete of 13 years.
In one other video marking their anniversary final 12 months, Lexie recounted Luis’s accident and the way she refused to surrender on him.
Not solely did he endure a traumatic mind harm, however he additionally injured his proper lung and coronary heart. His radius bone got here out of his arm, exposing him to micro organism. He needed to be resuscitated thrice and spent greater than 20 days in a coma within the hospital.
‘I used to be solely allowed to see him thrice a day for 3 minutes, and through these three minutes, I might sing to him our songs,’ she mentioned.
‘I might whisper in his ear. I might speak to him. I might inform him that I cherished him. I might ask him to return again, that I used to be there ready for him, that I used to be going to assist him. It did not matter how lengthy it will take, I used to be going to assist him.’
The hospital finally instructed Lexie there wasn’t anything they may do and despatched Luis house in a vegetative persistent state. She was the one who took him house and cared for him.
‘Slowly he got here again. He got here again to us,’ she recalled. ‘He began smiling, and nearly a 12 months after, he began speaking and the very first thing he mentioned to me was: “I really like you.” I feel these are probably the most lovely phrases I’ve ever heard in my life.’